So yesterday I was having a conversation with my 19 year old son about what kind of woman he would marry one day and whether or not he would date/marry a woman that wears her hair natural.
His first comment was that HE HATES WEAVE! Yes he hates it. He doesn't really care whether a woman relaxes her hair or wears it natural just as long as she is confident and keeps it looking nice. He says that to him its important for a woman to just be comfortable with who she is. He hates to see women use makeup, hair, clothes to validate who they are. Even though they try to pretend that they are not doing that it is very obvious.
He then looked at me and said Mom I liked your hair when it was relaxed, but I like it even more now that you are natural. I said why? He said because you are not allowing your hair to dictate your life. Before you wouldn't do things or go places because you were so afraid of messing up your hair or "sweating out your perm". He said now you seem more free and you are more fun.
I was like wow. I didn't realize that my son was so observant when it came to my hair. But it shows me that men are very observant. My husband even loves my natural hair, why? Because now we go to the gym together, we play racquetball (in that hot box), we get in the whirlpool (another hot box), and the sauna (a even hotter hot box) and I even get in the swimming pool (i can't swim). I do feel more free and more fun. Don't get me wrong some days I have bad hair days and good ones, but now I take my bad hair days and turn them into fun days.
So to all my sisters out there whatever decision you make about being natural, just remember that it will be a decision that you will have to live with for the rest of your life and it wont just affect you but it will impact everyone and everything around you. So in the words of my son JUST DO YOU BOO!
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