The Wisdom of My Son

So yesterday I was having a conversation with my 19 year old son about what kind of woman he would marry one day and whether or not he would date/marry a woman that wears her hair natural.

His first comment was that HE HATES WEAVE! Yes he hates it. He doesn't really care whether a woman relaxes her hair or wears it natural just as long as she is confident and keeps it looking nice. He says that to him its important for a woman to just be comfortable with who she is. He hates to see women use makeup, hair, clothes to validate who they are. Even though they try to pretend that they are not doing that it is very obvious.

He then looked at me and said Mom I liked your hair when it was relaxed, but I like it even more now that you are natural. I said why? He said because you are not allowing your hair to dictate your life. Before you wouldn't do things or go places because you were so afraid of messing up your hair or "sweating out your perm".  He said now you seem more free and you are more fun.

I was like wow. I didn't realize that my son was so observant when it came to my hair. But it shows me that men are very observant. My husband even loves my natural hair, why? Because now we go to the gym together, we play racquetball (in that hot box), we get in the whirlpool (another hot box), and the sauna (a even hotter hot box) and I even get in the swimming pool (i can't swim). I do feel more free and more fun. Don't get me wrong some days I have bad hair days and good ones, but now I take my bad hair days and turn them into fun days.

So to all my sisters out there whatever decision you make about being natural, just remember that it will be a decision that you will have to live with for the rest of your life and it wont just affect you but it will impact everyone and everything around you. So in the words of my son JUST DO YOU BOO!

Hair Update

Yeah I know its been a long time since my last post. Well Thanksgiving is over and man was it GREAT! Not only was all of the food great, but being with my family - Priceless.  I love my family and it is not until you spend a day with them that I realize just how blessed I am.

So now for my hair.

Well I have officially been natural for 1 month coming up on 2. Its been a journey, but its been fun. I have learned so much about the texture of my hair, what my hair likes and doesn't. Lets not talk about Products! Lord have I been through some stuff. It seems the things my "transitioning" hair liked, my all natural hair just doesn't.

Currently I'm using the following:

Carol Daughters Black Vanilla Leave-In Conditioner (Holy Grail)
Carol Daughters Black Vanilla Smoothie Deep Conditioner (Holy Grail)
Carol Daughters Black Vanilla Shampoo (Holy Grail)
Paul Mitchell Tresseme Naturals Conditioner
Trader Joes Tea Tree Tingle Conditioner

Shea Moisture Restoritive Leave In Conditioner (Holy Grail - Leaves my hair so moisturized)
Curls Unleashed Curling Jelly (Holy Grail - This stuff is amazing)
Quidad Mongongo Oil (Awesome)
Castor Oil
Olive Oil
Jojoba Oil

My wash routine is pretty much the same and happens every Saturday. I love my Saturdays, my hair loves it too.

Not sure yet what "special" all natural feeling I should be feeling but for now I feel so free. People love even envy my hair, and as each day passes I fall more and more in love with my hair. Its growing pretty good and its very healthy.

This is an awesome journey, and can say I will NEVER EVER go back to the Creamy Crack - For Me Crack is WHACK!!

Happy Holidays All.